“But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” -Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
I can’t believe I am quoting this show. In fact, today is the first time I have actually sat down and watched Sex and the City. Hard to believe it, I know…especially since my best friend, Sydney, watched it religiously throughout our high school years. A part of me is glad I subconciously waited until now to watch it- because I can really appreciate the situations and outcomes the character’s experience.
I turned on my television after I showered this morning and E! was having some Sex and the City Marathon. I briefly thought to myself, “I don’t want to watch this…and I probably won’t”, but something in me didn’t bother to change the channel, as I turned the TV on for background noise/distraction while I continued to work on my online real estate license course.
In that background noise, the show’s main character, Carrie Bradshaw, is talking about relationships. For some reason a part of my brain sent a signal to my ears and I listened to what she was saying. It was absolutely…well the TRUTH and when she said having a relationship with yourself is the most exciting, challenging and significant one you will have…it is something I tell myself, and preach to others daily.
Yeah, for those of you who “know me” are probably reading this laughing because for the longest time, I had no idea who I was or what having a relationship with myself was…because I never gave myself the opportunity to have one. I had a long term relationship from the age of 18-24 followed by a series of “seasonal,” or meaningless/waste of time relationships. Well, I finally gave myself that opportunity and it’s just like any other relationship- it takes time…it takes patience…and it takes work. It wasn’t an overnight transformation and finding yourself will never be. It is a day by day journey until the day you die. Each day I learn something different…and I grow a little bit more.
I didn’t want to make my first post lengthy, so I want to leave you with a challenge. Start to build the relationship you have with yourself. Don’t waste your time on someone that is going to just walk out of your life…and if they want to walk out, let them! Show them to the exit! Clearly if they can just up and go like that, they don’t care enough about you to stay, and that relationship wasn’t an important one in your life.